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Hi. I have a partner before, we are same sex, she is a girl also. We still have communication as a friend. Shes in France but everytime there is a misunderstood she is trying to scare me even though we are far apart. She keeps threatening me, saying she will message the people around me and destroy my reputation. She also harasses me online and calls my workplace. I’m scared, and I feel like I don’t have peace. I don’t want to get her in trouble, but I also want her to stop. She did this many times to me but now I feel like I need to know what is the best thing to do now cos i don't have a peace of mind. Can you help me understand what I can do?
Sosionom svarer
This sounds like a very difficult situation for you to be in.
You’ve shared that your ex is threatening you, sending messages, calling your employer to damage your reputation, and posting hurtful things about you online. According to Norwegian law, this may be considered harassment, defamation, and cyberbullying.
I believe it would be good for you to speak with someone who knows more about the legal system and how to deal with people who break the law. Jussbuss can offer free legal assistance and advice on how to handle this.
Still, here are some pieces of advice I’d like to give you:
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Save all evidence, so you have something to show—to both your ex and to the police or others.
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Inform your employer. Let them know that she is not leaving you alone, and ask them not to speak with her or share any information about you.
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Take care of yourself, and put your own needs first—just as she is putting hers ahead of yours. Maybe you should find someone to talk with? Mental helse could be a support for you.
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You mention that she is threatening you. Are you afraid for your life, or that she might hurt you? If so, I think you should contact the police.
Regards
Clinical sosialworker